Worrying Doesn't Change Anything

Worrying doesn't change anything, yet many of us get caught up in "what if's". This can spiral into anxiety that can cause insomnia and stress.

Once you get into a negative pattern like this, it can be hard to pull yourself out of it. Depression may soon follow.

There is a better way.

No, I do not mean a pharmaceutical fix either. Often this can cause more problems. (side effects,avoidance of issues)

Attitude is everything. If you can see the changes that inevitably happen in life as opportunities for growth instead of personal attacks on your happiness, you may be able to move forward instead of being stuck in the past or present.

Not convinced? Try this. Allow yourself a 15 minute pity party. Cry. Break things. If absolutely necessary unload your troubles on a good friend (CAUTION: do this too often and you will be seen as an emotional vampire)
and then when the 15 minutes are up- MOVE ON!

That's right. Just let go of it. Focus on the positive. Even in the midst of great tragedy there is something positive to be found.

Look at the Japanese. Their country suffered a catastrophic earthquake, quickly followed by a tsunami, followed by a very real threat of several nuclear plants melting down.

Are they going crazy stealing from each other? NO
Are they panicking? NO

They are showing resiliance under the greatest possible natural disasters. We can all learn a lesson from them. Their will and grace is admirable. How does an entire country exhibit such strength? I don't know. I know few Americans would behave the same way.

So...if you are someone who finds themselves stressed out by life, decide to put an end to worry.  You can avoid sinking into depression and you may even see your life change in a positive way.

Coping with Back to School Anxiety for Teenagers

Being in high school can be a lot of pressure for some students. Whether you are a freshman who is just starting your high school career or a senior who is looking forward to college, there are still expectations to live up to.
A student who suffers anxiety from worrying about grades, social situations and other typical high school worries needs to get a handle on their panic in order to do well in school. So how do you cope with the normal anxiety that many teens face?
Ask for help
Guidance counselors are there not only to help you with future career choices but to talk through issues that may be troubling you. If you are feeling overwhelmed with classes or just want to talk about relationship issues, your guidance counselor may be the person to seek out for advice. If you are having trouble keeping up in a class, talk to your teacher and possibly arrange for a tutor. Don’t allow your anxiety to keep you from admitting that you might need help.
Set reasonable goals
If you tend to overextend yourself, start to prioritize what you need to do versus what you would like to do. Being involved in too many afterschool activities can take time away from homework and studying. If you enjoy taking part in clubs or sports, try to stagger your involvement so that you can find equal time for everything that you need to accomplish. Being active is good but if you spread yourself too thin you will not be able to get the most out of the experience.
Be realistic about high school romance
It’s nice to have a boyfriend or girlfriend when you are in high school but getting too serious can distract you from the personal goals that you might have for your future. Dating is fine, but when you get too serious it can influence your grades and give you additional stress that you do not need.
Try to enjoy the experience
Grab opportunities that come your way in high school. Pursue your interests and do not be afraid to stand out from the crowd. Too many teens worry about fitting in and sometimes hold back from growing into who they are. Allowing peer pressure to choose how you act will only cause you stress and anxiety. High school is the time where you are able to explore subjects and activities that can help to mold your future. If you really want to try out for the school play but you feel shy, get involved in it by working behind the scenes. Maybe next year you will build up the confidence to go for a speaking role. Do not allow what others might say to keep you from pursuing your interests. High school can be a fun time that goes by too fast. If you still feel anxiety that you cannot work through, you need to seek out professional help. Anxiety is common and very treatable. Ignoring it will not fix it. Check out the following link for more anxiety resources.
http://www.freedomfromfear.org/