Having a happy marriage and living in the real world is a huge challenge.
Relationships take time and work. When life gets in the way of a couple being able to spend time together, their relationship can suffer.
Secrets can happen and even if they are unintentional; the lack of communication between a couple can cause many issues.
So many people are struggling financially today. Often this means working longer hours or perhaps one spouse is working two jobs because the other spouse is unemployed. Money troubles are one of the biggest issues that can cause a couple to fight and when a couple is struggling to meet their necessary expenses the tension can be thicker.
How do you try and keep communication open when it often feels like you are ships passing in the night? If you just keep on with your hectic pace and ignore that you are not getting quality couple time, your relationship can start having some big problems.
Find the time to talk - If your spouse is giving you the excuse that he/she is tired or too busy remind him/her that communication is essential and gently tell him/her that you feel like your relationship is beginning to suffer.
Dealing with a reluctant spouse - A couple who is going through a hard time because of finances or job loss may be so stressed out that they are neglecting what they are fighting for. You need to remind them of what is really important. If there is no financial issues or other reasons why your communication has been reduced, you may question to yourself whether your spouse is straying.
See what is really going on - Without creating drama in your mind, think hard about what has been going on in your lives lately. Try to put yourself in your spouse's shoes. Could there be a reason why they are not spending time with you or avoiding you aside from their work demands? Are you imagining things or have you caught your spouse in lies? Sometimes a spouse may stray because he/she is feeling neglected or feels resentful of his/her spouse. Is there something that you can do to reassure your spouse?
Honesty and facing facts - You need to be able to voice your feelings to your spouse. For that to happen you are going to have to sit down and talk. If your spouse puts you off, insist upon setting up a day and time to have a needed heart to heart.
The big talk - Making a marriage work takes two. If your troubles are because of finances, work together to try and change things. Offer to take some of the pressure off of your spouse and once that is done remind him/her how important your marriage is. If your spouse is willing you will be able to get back on track by making promises to each other such as a date night or perhaps a nightly walk together.
In today's crazy world it can be easy for a marriage to get stale. If you want to be married, it is going to take work and both of you need to do the work. ONE person cannot carry a marriage.
Relationships take time and work. When life gets in the way of a couple being able to spend time together, their relationship can suffer.
Secrets can happen and even if they are unintentional; the lack of communication between a couple can cause many issues.
So many people are struggling financially today. Often this means working longer hours or perhaps one spouse is working two jobs because the other spouse is unemployed. Money troubles are one of the biggest issues that can cause a couple to fight and when a couple is struggling to meet their necessary expenses the tension can be thicker.
How do you try and keep communication open when it often feels like you are ships passing in the night? If you just keep on with your hectic pace and ignore that you are not getting quality couple time, your relationship can start having some big problems.
Find the time to talk - If your spouse is giving you the excuse that he/she is tired or too busy remind him/her that communication is essential and gently tell him/her that you feel like your relationship is beginning to suffer.
Dealing with a reluctant spouse - A couple who is going through a hard time because of finances or job loss may be so stressed out that they are neglecting what they are fighting for. You need to remind them of what is really important. If there is no financial issues or other reasons why your communication has been reduced, you may question to yourself whether your spouse is straying.
See what is really going on - Without creating drama in your mind, think hard about what has been going on in your lives lately. Try to put yourself in your spouse's shoes. Could there be a reason why they are not spending time with you or avoiding you aside from their work demands? Are you imagining things or have you caught your spouse in lies? Sometimes a spouse may stray because he/she is feeling neglected or feels resentful of his/her spouse. Is there something that you can do to reassure your spouse?
Honesty and facing facts - You need to be able to voice your feelings to your spouse. For that to happen you are going to have to sit down and talk. If your spouse puts you off, insist upon setting up a day and time to have a needed heart to heart.
The big talk - Making a marriage work takes two. If your troubles are because of finances, work together to try and change things. Offer to take some of the pressure off of your spouse and once that is done remind him/her how important your marriage is. If your spouse is willing you will be able to get back on track by making promises to each other such as a date night or perhaps a nightly walk together.
In today's crazy world it can be easy for a marriage to get stale. If you want to be married, it is going to take work and both of you need to do the work. ONE person cannot carry a marriage.
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