Being a teen mom is not glamorous. Few teen moms get rich from having a baby before they are twenty years old. Chances are slim that they will get chosen to be on a reality show either.
I do not recommend teen parenting for anyone. Even though a baby is a gift and a blessing, there is a better time to become a mom.
Advice for a teen mom is an article that I recently wrote but I really had to hold back on how I really feel. Remembering the feelings of isolation and hopelessness at times made the reality of the situation even more overwhelming.
Having family support is great but it doesn't change the facts. Motherhood is a life-long job and for many, a commitment. Sure, you can walk away from your parenting responsibilities but most do not do so without some level of guilt.
How not to become a teen mom? Think before you get involved. Use birth control. There will be no "surprise" pregnancies if you use protection. Also learn how to use it wisely. It is your body and you should know how it "works". Birth control can be up to 99% effective if it is used correctly!
If you do find yourself a teen mom, life is not over. It is just different and you are now facing challenges that many of your peers are not.
You can raise a happy child and do well for yourself but you will need to prioritize your life. Forget about your love life (for now), this is what got you in this spot. Obviously, you need to rethink having a relationship. Put your child's needs on the front burner along with your needs to provide a good life for you both.
It won't be easy, nothing worthwhile is. You can further your education, get a good job and set a good example for the child that you are now responsible for. Ask for help but show that you are willing to do your part by working hard.
And by all means, be smarter the next time you get involved with someone. You cannot change what has happened but you can accept your new reality and do the best you can with it.
I do not recommend teen parenting for anyone. Even though a baby is a gift and a blessing, there is a better time to become a mom.
Advice for a teen mom is an article that I recently wrote but I really had to hold back on how I really feel. Remembering the feelings of isolation and hopelessness at times made the reality of the situation even more overwhelming.
Having family support is great but it doesn't change the facts. Motherhood is a life-long job and for many, a commitment. Sure, you can walk away from your parenting responsibilities but most do not do so without some level of guilt.
How not to become a teen mom? Think before you get involved. Use birth control. There will be no "surprise" pregnancies if you use protection. Also learn how to use it wisely. It is your body and you should know how it "works". Birth control can be up to 99% effective if it is used correctly!
If you do find yourself a teen mom, life is not over. It is just different and you are now facing challenges that many of your peers are not.
You can raise a happy child and do well for yourself but you will need to prioritize your life. Forget about your love life (for now), this is what got you in this spot. Obviously, you need to rethink having a relationship. Put your child's needs on the front burner along with your needs to provide a good life for you both.
It won't be easy, nothing worthwhile is. You can further your education, get a good job and set a good example for the child that you are now responsible for. Ask for help but show that you are willing to do your part by working hard.
And by all means, be smarter the next time you get involved with someone. You cannot change what has happened but you can accept your new reality and do the best you can with it.
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